This last couple weeks I have been dabbling with the idea of adding something else to my plate….and I want to tell you, but then I don’t because you’ll say something like….”Oh I didn’t know you did that.” Or you might say, “Really, who KNEW?!” So lets just say I was approached to help someone out and it would be a once a week commitment. Although in years passed I have wanted to have the ability to do this commitment, it just hasn’t been possible. SOOOOO anyways I have been struggling with this idea, balancing things out in my head, rearranging my schedule, etc. When I discussed this IDEA with Jase he lovingly hesitated to tell me that, “Honey, Do you REALLY think you can add something ELSE to your plate?” (my insides were let down….hard) I knew in my heart that RIGHT NOW just wasn’t the right time.
After a day to let it sink in my brain, I got the courage up to tell this person NO. See I had already told her I’d LOVE to do it, but now I had to let HER DOWN. I called, no answer. I called another day, different person answered, “please have so-&-so call me back.” NO call back. This is making it really hard to tell her I can’t do it. I called again, AGAIN no answer, so I left a message telling her I couldn’t do it. She called back right away. I told her my situation & OF COURSE she understood, great person.
I felt so (as Jase would say) empowered. It was crazy knowing this would be better if I said NO. Then after saying No, I felt CONTROL! Yes I have control over my life & No I don’t have to do everything I am asked to do.
THANK YOU Mrs. So-&-So!
I like Saying No sometimes.
Good for you Rach!!! There is something very empowering about coming into a phase of life where you go from the sollower to the leader and part of that is learning to determine priorities and only taking on what you can handle and delegating the rest!
Rachee you are awesome! love you and miss you!